Believe In Herself

MOST FREQUENT QUESTIONS

(1)How do you cope with 4 kids?

It’s something which I can’t escape. They are my children and they are my responsibility. Be it if I can or can’t, I will make sure I will do it. They rely on me so I must give my best. There were days when I’m alone with them. I admit it’s tiring but at the end of the day, I'm proud of myself to handle them single handed and witness their antics everyday. It’s not that chaotic as long as I know how to prioritise and handle one at a time. There were days when it’s just me and him with them. This is where we both work hand in hand, giving each other full support. There were also times when our families gave a helping hand. In fact, the presence of the 4 kids helped to bond the family ties. We always count on one another with regards on the kids’ welfare. The conclusion is lethargic yet satisfying.

(2)Who takes care of them?

My parents and his parents. There is no definite arrangement but we manage to work out a plan. His parents will be at our house during weekdays and they will return to their place on Friday. However if his off days fell on the weekdays, then he will take care of the 2 elder kids and the twins will be stationed at his parents' home. During weekends will be me and the kids and he will be around if fell on his off days. Should I be working during the weekends, then either my parents/sisters will be coming over or I send the kids over.

(3)Do they change your life?
Physically, mentally, financially! We are worn out and they are always on our mind. But hey! We are not complaining. In fact, we are looking forward to see their faces after knocking off from work. We are always discussing about their welfare and talking about their acts! We spent quite a sum of money on the 4 kids’ diapers and formula milk but this is only temporary. However I do love to splurge on their stuff with my full heart. We have no regrets of myself getting pregnant after married for just 2 months. We have no regrets of having 4 kids within 4 years of marriage. They are gifts from HIM to us. This is a blessing in disguise because it tightens up and strengthen our relationship!

(4)Will there be baby number 5?

I’m surprised that people asking me this question! 4 kids not enough, huh! On the other hand, I do not want to be too over confident to say that this will be the end. As I did previous after I had my second child, I got knocked up again when he was barely 6 months old. I’m truly content with what I have now, a girl, a boy and twin’s boys. Please don’t ask me about having twin’s girls next! As for now, I just want to concentrate on them. I want to shower them with all the love, care, concern and attention.

(5)Do you have time to date?
Definitely! Frankly speaking, even the elderly encourage us to have quality time together. But of course it will be occasionally because we are now half hearted to leave the kids behind! Although we had many plans and our self expenditure had been slashed, we never blame them for causing the destruction or feeling demoralized. They are not as important as part of their upbringing. We still have time ahead, insya allah.